A Letter to All My Mothers

I couldn’t let May, the month of Mothers, go by with out writing this letter to you!

New moms: There is only one guide to motherhood which is the Bible/prayer! So do the best you can and God has the rest! Take the things you love about your mom and how she raised you. Build on those things. Give yourself grace and remember you are the Mother that God choose to be your baby’s Mommy! Trust that He knows best! Enjoy and savor every moment because they will be grown in a blink of an eye!

Single moms: I have always took my heels off to y’all! I only did it for about 4 years and I wasn’t that great at it! If I would have stopped and remembered the words above for myself I probably wouldn’t have sat in my own pitty party so long! Y’all rock and continue to love your baby’s even in your struggle cause they are watching your strong self! Take time for you and don’t forget about You! Ask for help when needed and know that God has a plan!

Married moms: Be careful. We were wife first. Don’t forget about your husband. Still show him love and make time for him. He won’t like this but he is like our oldest Baby! He needs and wants his attention also. However, in a respectful manner help him understand that you need his help in this thing called parenthood. Be patient with him but continue the dialogue and to communicate that you NEED his support and help with the babies. Remind him that you are not SUPER woman or SUPER mom! She is not real and it takes two! The more you give him his time and even his own time and space the more he will want to help! Pray pray and pray for him because it’s hard sometimes for them to process how much we need his help and that it’s just as important that he spends time with the children.

Moms with no biological children: I think you all inspire me to no end! You always wanted children but God had a different path for you. I know you have you but God why moments. But God is the answer. I know that because He built you a different way! He knew that you would do exactly what you are doing. You are the mother to your parents as they grow older, you are the mother to your siblings keeping them in check, you are the mother to your nieces and nephews blessing them all the time, the mother to all of your friends children and the god-mother to them. But most of all you are the mother to so many in your community... pouring into everyone who crosses your path! You have so much love inside you and you are not selfish to keep it inside. You are like the ocean overflowing with love for all of us! Keep your head up and keep being the very best you!

Those mothers who said no thank you I’m good!: Lol You knew! You said I’m good! I can’t! Lol You said I’m good with loving y’all’s babies and we love you for doing just that! You are still that woman who is mother of us all! You do the same as those women who have no biological children but still pour out! You still belong in this elite club!

All moms: Remember that no matter what, they will grow up and leave the nest. You have to put your oxygen mask on first and then put theirs on! Self care for moms, well women period, is so important! Take all the time you need for you! Love you! Find something for you and do it all the time! M-A-K-E time for you! Those baby’s will be just fine without you for an hour or two! Don’t let time slip away, them grow up and then you have to find out who you are minus the title of Mom! You are a strong Woman first! That’s why God gave us the title Mom and made us carry them because he knew WE could handle it! He will never put more on us than we can bare!

Lastly but not least.....

Young women/moms to be: Live your very best life! Do you Boo Boo! Don’t rush it! Once you are ready plan for your babies! And keep all of these words and the words of all women you respect and admire close to your heart! Then when God is ready to bless you with babies you will be ready and we all will be there to celebrate with you and come along side you!

Just a few words from a mother on the other side and is learning most of these things on the backend!

P.S. All four of my children are grown and I still refer to them as babies, because they will always be my babies and that’s why I used babies to refer to all ages in this post!

Love you all!

Your girl,

K.Lyte